Sarah and Jerry have been married for four years. They wanted to have some fun and excitement before they decided to have some kids and so they consciously fashioned an exceptionally exciting social life.
The major difficulty, it needs to be stressed, is that just about everything they do with their family and friends is associated with drinking. For example, all of the happy hours, sporting events, family get-togethers, parties with friends, and dinner engagements they patronize somehow include drinking.
Jerry and Sarah Start to Take Note of Some Obvious Alcohol Related Difficulties That Come From Their Hazardous Drinking
If they were responsible or moderate drinkers, this wouldn’t be such a major issue. Given the fact that they drink in an excessive manner, however, they are beginning to see some clearly identifiable alcohol-related difficulties in their lives.
For example, just a few days ago Jerry got his first DWI and has been overlooking responsibilities at work because of alcohol-related health problems. What is more, Jerry’s last three performance evaluations at the office have been less than satisfactory and he has begun to forget what he says or does the times that he drinks. Lastly, Jerry has been experiencing sleep-related problems and his family has begun to get nervous about his drinking difficulties.
Similarly, Sarah has been feeling down in the dumps with life and to deal with these feelings, she has been drinking more intensely than any time in the past seven months. Moreover, Sarah has been experiencing a lot of painful headaches and experiencing agonizing hangovers because of her drinking. Lastly, Sarah has been feeling considerably less active in the morning, she has been getting to work late at least once per week, and she has been getting some unsympathetic criticism from her coworkers, family members, friends, and relatives about her abusive drinking.
Watching the Television and Stumbling Upon A Captivating Program About the Signs of Alcohol Dependency
One Friday evening while watching the television, Jerry and Sarah accidently discovered a remarkable program about the signs of alcoholism.
This television documentary was a real source of discovery to Sarah and Jerry because many of the alcoholism signs that were discussed seemed like they were unwaveringly associated with numerous alcohol-related drinking problems Jerry and Sarah had been experiencing.
An Open Talk About Drinking Situations Exposes Alcohol Related Legal, Health, Financial, Employment, and Relationship Problems
After watching the TV documentary, Jerry and Sarah determined that they needed to have a truthful dialogue about their drinking behavior. They both were in agreement that most, if not all, of their social pursuits included drinking, that they were drinking in an excessive manner, and that as a couple, they were beginning to notice alcohol related relationship, legal, employment, financial, and health problems for the first time since they were married.
With thoughts of the TV special still fresh in her mind, Sarah asked Jerry if some of the alcohol addiction signs they have been displaying could be a warning that they are addicted to alcohol or conceivably becoming dependent on alcohol. Jerry didn’t know the answer to Sarah’s inquiry and so he recommended that they make an appointment with one of the doctors at the local drug and alcohol treatment facility to find out more about the severity of their drinking issues.
Attending To Your Drinking Issues May Lower Your Fear and Give You A Degree of Peacefulness
Paradoxically, although their drinking circumstances hadn’t yet changed, it was noticeable that Sarah and Jerry were at least tackling their drinking problems, they were willing to find out more about their drinking behavior, and they were concerned about how they could appreciably cut down the severity or do away with the alcohol-related problems that had begun to get worse.
When Sarah and Jerry went to bed that evening, they came to a decision that the next afternoon, Jerry would call and make an appointment for both of them at the substance abuse treatment facility located just South of the State Capital. After they promised one another that they would do whatever it takes to deal with the drinking difficulties that had become apparent in their lives, they in point of fact had the most refreshing night’s sleep they could bring to mind in the last nine months.
Just before he fell asleep, Jerry turned to Sarah and commented how simple it is to lower one’s nervousness and truly experience a degree of peacefulness by dealing with one’s problems head-on and deciding to do something affirmative about them.
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July 3, 2010
Susie’s Strange Malady Was Affecting Her Life
Susie’s problem was out of control. She was too short. Her neighbor Tara was just the right height. Susie could not compete in any basketball game with friends and neighbors. Tara was a three point wonder. Susie was plagued by her next door neighbor envy.
Tara had a beautiful lawn. Her husband cut it and trimmed it, even trimming around the patio. Susie’s grass hadn’t seen a lawn mower since her husband bought the echo chainsaw. All he liked to do now was trim the trees. He stopped trimming the grass and it showed signs of neglect.
Susie’s husband ignored weeds too. He let everything grow tall while he trimmed trees. When he did cut it, he didn’t trim anything. She nagged a little but he never listened.
It was Susie’s shopping day. She wondered what Tara ate every day. She was slender in addition to being tall. Susie was not tall or slender. She looked down at her waistline and frowned. Her exercise routine wasn’t working. She wondered if Tara did exercises.
Susie was so happy the day she and her husband bought a twin sleigh bed for their daughter. It was a soft white in French Provincial style and perfect for a little girls room. She called Tara to come over and see it. Tara complimented the bed highly and then they had coffee together. Of course, Susie thought Tara’s brand of coffee was better, but oh well at least she now had a sleigh bed for her daughter.
Tara brought her two daughters for a visit the next day. The little girls had fun playing with dolls. Susie smugly noted that they only had one video game system while her daughter had one all to herself. The three girls had fun and never gave toy envy a thought.
After they left, Susie and her daughter chatted. The child told her that Tara’s two girl’s each had a sleigh bed in their room. Susie felt that old next door neighbor envy and it grew unbearable. She was glad Tara hadn’t bragged about it.
Right after breakfast the next morning, she hustled her daughter off to the mall. They went straight to the furniture store. The child wondered why. She said she liked the sleigh bed she had and didn’t want a new one. Susie responded in a crabby way that they would put it in their spare bedroom. It’s just in case someone stays overnight she said. There, now she also had two sleigh beds in her home.
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Diane drank to an excess on a regular basis with her classmates. One Wednesday after all of her classes were finished, she began reflecting on her drinking behavior and the abusive drinking of her drinking buddies. As a consequence of this, she courteously asked all of her friends the following question: “what do we really know about alcohol poisoning, binge drinking, alcohol abuse, and alcoholism? In other words, how much alcohol addiction and alcohol abuse information do we really know? For our young age, we certainly drink quite a bit and I am beginning to wonder if we are headed for a life filled with alcohol-associated difficulties in the near future.
I think we need to go online and find out all that is possible about alcohol poisoning, binge drinking, alcohol abuse, and alcoholism. And then if we have any questions that we really don’t understand after we complete our online research, we can take a hike to the student health center at the college and ask Nurse Lewis to help us understand what we can’t comprehend.”
It Shouldn’t Come as a Complete Surprise That What Diane Stated Would Instigate a Heated Discussion
It shouldn’t come as a huge surprise that what Diane articulated would lead to a heated discussion. As an illustration, her very best friend, Lisa, articulated that they are too healthy and too young to be concerned about careless and hazardous drinking. Another classmate named Daniel thought that since most high school students drink there’s no valid reason why they should be any different. Another drinking friend named Brandy stated that all she wants to do is to have fun drinking with her friends. And still another drinking buddy named Abel in fact agreed with Diane essentially because both of his parents abused alcohol and both of his parents had a history of alcohol related issues.
Diane told her pals that she comprehended everything that they had stated but that getting involved in unhealthy and abusive drinking at such a young age truly cannot be very healthy or conducive toward establishing a meaningful life. When two or three of her pals asked what kind of alcohol issues Diane was talking about, Diane stated the following: alcohol-related problems like alcohol poisoning (which can be fatal in some instances), alcohol-related traffic accidents and fatalities, and alcoholism and alcohol-related diseases such as heart disease, cirrhosis of the liver, and cancer.
Irresponsible and Hazardous Drinking Usually Results in Alcohol-Related Problems
When Diane then stated that careless and abusive drinking often results in relationship, financial, school, and legal problems, some of her drinking buddies finally started to comprehend how comprehensive and how debilitating hazardous and abusive drinking can be. Without a doubt some of her classmates became more “open” and began talking about how these alcohol dependency and alcohol abuse effects had affected some of their friends and their parents.
After going over some of the alcoholism and alcohol abuse problems that are related to careless and irresponsible drinking, the vast majority of her buddies seemed to like the idea about getting information on the Internet. They were, however, hesitant to discuss their drinking behavior with the administrators at school. As Diane thought about this she told herself, “at least they are willing to find out more about their careless and abusive drinking. This is a good start.”
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Wendy was the mother of three children. Wendy had been feeling quite anxious lately and started to “medicate” herself by having four or five bottles of beer each night after she put her children to bed. After nearly five weeks of this drinking routine, she at last realized that rather than helping her unwind and ”muddle through” her difficulties, drinking made her feel less rested when she got up in the morning. This, in turn, made her feel more stressed all through the day.
After thinking about her predicament for four or five days, Wendy made up her mind to discuss her problem drinking with her best friend. In fact, just about twenty minutes into their conversation, Wendy’s friend, Erin, told her about an extremely proficient and skillful doctor at the local drug and alcohol abuse treatment clinic. After talking to her friend, Wendy almost instantly got encouraged to call the rehab facility and make an appointment.
Seven days later she eventually got to meet the doctor her friend had been talking about. After their short introduction, Wendy explained to the doctor that ever since she and her former husband got divorced, she has been having an extremely difficult time psychologically, spiritually, and financially.
At times, she felt that the divorce was behind her. Recently, conversely, she has been feeling quite depressed about the fact that she and her former husband couldn’t stay married and “make it”. When asked by the psychiatrist how long her former husband and she went together before they got married, Wendy told the doctor that Robert, her former husband, and she dated for two years and then lived together for three-and-a-half years before they got married.
As Wendy was talking to the physician, she stressed the point that she really thought that they waited long enough to know each other well enough before they got married. After the children started to arrive, to the contrary, everything seemed to get worse. Not only this but both she and Robert started to drink, and their careless and hazardous drinking adversely affected their love for one another, their relationship, and their finances.
When things went from bad to worse, Robert hired a divorce lawyer and filed for a divorce. Although things were plainly not going well and even though she was habitually depressed, Wendy told the doctor that she didn’t want to put a stop to their marriage. Once she received the divorce papers, however, she knew that their relationship was over.
The psychiatrist explained to Wendy that the anxiety, stress, and tension that she has been experiencing concerning her careless and irresponsible drinking are some of the typical alcohol abuse effects and that the best solution for this state of affairs is rehab for one’s alcohol abuse. In fact, getting alcohol abuse treatment is extremely important because long-term drinking can get the individual into even more dangerous alcohol and alcoholism difficulties.
After seven or eight counseling sessions with her psychiatrist, Wendy was gradually able to understand that the real origin of her anxiety and her depression was that she had not worked through her spiteful feelings she has for her former husband who had divorced her three years ago. With these insights and with the medications her psychiatrist prescribed, she eventually quit drinking, she started to feel significantly less depressed, and she started making more time for social activities with her friends and family. A few months after receiving therapy from her doctor, she even began to date once again.
It was clear that Wendy had come a long way. In fact, just about four months after she stopped her treatment, Wendy had finally laid the depressing emotions of her ex-husband to rest and was beginning to feel more self esteem and more spiritually “sound” and emotionally “together” than she had ever felt in her life.
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March 13, 2010
Counting Blessing Instead Of Wrinkle Lines
Every day I wake up a little bit older. As I advance into middle age I check the mirror just a little more and see the crow’s feet starting to form as I apply more cream and think if it is really going to work. Yes it’s my fortieth birthday and I am feeling a bit old.
Making my way to the kitchen a feel my body creaking and I ponder if leg arthritis is beginning. Yes this is the beginning of the end. I saw my future next week retiring with my cane because I could no longer walk or hold a job down.
I feel the rain begin to pour as I drop my kids off at school and thank the Lord above for my next present of walking from my parking spot in the rain to ruin my hair. This day is just getting better and better. But it does as I am greeted with a bunch of black balloons in my office. A nice joke but it didn’t help my mood.
To top it off there is a bouquet of black balloons from my well meaning co-workers. I try to laugh as I slump in my desk and really being a pity party over my declining state of being, knowing it is all down hill from here until death.
As I look at my ringing phone I see it is a birthday call from my best friend Lisa. She probably has the perfect fun filled dig to give me while reminding me she is two years younger. But as I answered I sense that she is upset. I ask her what is wrong but she tries to play it off.
She tries not to cry but I want to know what is wrong as she tells me, ‘I’m so sorry to tell you this today, but I just found out I have breast cancer and I really need a friend right now.’ After hearing this devastating news I feel awful. Here I am in my pity party of one and my best friend just got the worst news of her life. As I console her and tell her it is going to be okay I am slapping myself for being such a selfish idiot.
How could I let my thoughts go so far in the negative? I am so blessed to have what I have and how could I dare complain. What is a little wrinkle when I have my health? So as I get home I rush into the house and hug my kids and my husband and realize just how blessed I truly am.
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February 26, 2010
Self-Confidence Advice
One day when I was around my early to mid twenties, I went to the hairdressers for my monthly trim. This woman enquired about whether I had heard about the tragic car crash that had recently occured. I hadn’t and she then went on to describe what had happened.
Three young men who were all aged twenty-two, were on the way for an evening in the local public house. One of the men was speeding and was unable to keep control of the car. His vehicle had then careered straight into a large tree, all three of the people in the car had died at the scene.
She continued that one of the men which had died, had worked in the butchers, which was only two doors away from her shop. She described the man in question, which turned out to be a person that I knew, just to say hello to. I actually saw him on most mornings and we often smiled at each other, and would say something like, hi there.
Later on when I was at home, I started to think even more about this particular person. Even though he was friendly, he always looked quite stressed and did not seem that happy. If he had known what was about to happen to him, I am sure he would have made the most of the time he had left.
It should not have taken this kind of tragedy to bring me to my senses, but it did. I suddenly realised that we are all terminally ill as we all will die at some point in the future. I am sorry if that is a bit morbid, but it is true. Not all of us will live until retirement age and our lives could end tomorrow.
I have always been a bit of a worrier; mainly about my speech I suppose as I had a stuttering speech impediment. I did eventually manage to gain fluency via an intensive one-to-one stuttering therapy course but even then I started to worry about business; I work for a composite door company and for a business cost reduction specialist on a part time basis.
I now have learnt to stop stressing so much - life, I have now learnt, is just too short.
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February 13, 2010
Getting rid of anxiety: Living in the Present
I was once a one who worried regarding imaginary events in the longer term, and I let my imagination play havoc with me. My worries and my anxiety would not let me specialise in no matter I was doing.
Furthermore, I was aware that I was being controlled by my worries which upset me even more - I might put myself down and inform myself, “How much person am I that I am letting myself be controlled by my imagination?”
Fortunately, I stumbled on some readings that allowed me to see the light. I learnt a few techniques that put me in management of myself straight away. I observed that getting rid of anxiety and worries was not such a troublesome task when all.
I’m sharing nowadays this powerful technique with you. It is the “This Is Me Doing This” positive technique: getting back to this (and solely the current).
A distracted mind is a field where considerations and worries grow easily. Paying attention to what you are doing is key to live a cheerful and fulfilling life. Having a positive angle naturally follows.
Decide to urge back to the present. As an example, if you’re washing dishes, begin by saying to yourself “this can be me laundry dishes”. Repeat it calmly, that specialize in the very act of laundry dishes. Name that which you’re doing.
As you repeat to yourself “this can be me doing (no matter)”, you start feeling relaxed. Different matters loose importance; you are giving orders to your mind to actively specialize in what you are doing, and only that.
When you move on to the next task, continue telling yourself what you’re doing. “This can be me walking upstairs”, “this can be me feeding the cat”, etc. Feel how a lot of and a lot of calm comes to you as you keep on repeating “this is often me doing (whatever)”.
Once a few minutes of keeping focused and repeating to yourself what you are doing, you may probably experience a sense of well-being. All stresses and worries could seem past or worthless. Keep focused.
Speak to yourself completely in between telling yourself what you’re doing. Say “this is often me brushing my teeth” (for instance), followed by “I’m calm and I’m enjoying the current”, “this is me brushing my teeth”, “I feel good and relaxed”.
The benefits of this system are powerful and nearly immediate. It allows you to focus on this present rather than letting your mind play with hypothetical events. It shuts all unnecessary worries and anxieties.
When practised regularly, this system offers you the chance of being additional attentive to who you’re, where you’re, and what you’re doing. The very first step to decide on the life you would like!
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